The Big Questions

The Big Questions

 

In search of my identity, I’ve run across some of The Big Questions in my last couple posts. Life-changing questions that have made me pause writing and really think are rare. I know you can’t tell from reading, but there are autistic pauses where my mind goes blank for a second, and then there are these pauses. My whole paradigm shifts, and I can’t make sense of the world anymore. I can’t expect to run into them all the time, but having a glimpse into the depth of reality and asking the hard questions of the truth of why I’m doing what I am doing…

I thought I could answer them with some thought and journaling in a day. Hahahahaha. Ha. Ha.    Ha. Ahem. My ego grows large, and I am appropriately cut down to size hopefully quickly for it. Sure, it smarts in the moment, but I have been cut down for much smaller things, so I am grateful for someone looking out for me when my ego grows too big. Or when there’s something I haven’t realized my entire life that my brother just sarcastically mentions in passing that I’m an avoidant and I have to deal with that altering fact.

Now I know how people feel when I slap them with wisdom. It hurts! I don’t care if it’s the truth; it makes your brain smart and your feeling hurt! I had decided before to stop being “a therapist” to others because it was hurting me. Now I’m stopping because it’s hurting others, and honestly, that’s a much more effective way of stopping me right now.

Are you disappointed I didn’t give you some life-altering advice this time? Why or why not?

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