Just Let It Go

Just Let It Go


No, it’s not the Frozen song, and I’m sorry if it brings it to mind. I was reminded recently of the heavy traumatic load I still carry, and that I just need to let it slide off my shoulders. That’s it. We spend every second of every day fighting our battles that sometimes, just sometimes, we forget the battles that we’ve already won. We carry the weight of the past that we don’t need to with us. This is our reminder to just breathe a deep breath. Sigh. And with that sigh, let the weight of all that is in the past be the past so that the present can have its moment and the future can have its hope!

I almost cried when I realized how much baggage I had been holding onto. And no, what I am suggesting is not as easy as a 1, 2, 3, breathe in, breathe out, done. At least, it wasn’t for me. I wish it was. Back a few blog posts ago, I decided to turn this blog post around for good and not focus on the past anymore. This is not a relapse of that! This is a re-commitment to that by way of hope. The past has recently tried to drag me back down, but I won’t let it. I am slowly shedding the past and not letting it define my future.

Last night I watched the movie I am Pretty. It’s a few years old, so it’s not “The hottest thing in town,” but it had an extremely powerful message! I’m surprised Barbie got a lot of attention and this movie didn’t, because the messages were both very empowering for women. This movie is about a woman who has no confidence and is completely ignored in everything but has high dreams. Sounds like a lot of us, right? She has an accident, hits her head, and literally sees her body physically differently, like she’s a supermodel. That’s all it took for her to start acting with the confidence of letting her hair down is not having to worry about how people perceived her body and judged her based on first impressions. Her dream job? To be the receptionist of the cosmetics company that she worked at online, and since everyone else saw this “no-good, never going to amount to anything” person based on first impressions, they hired her for it. Turns out, she was great at her job because she had confidence and skills! She landed a guy through a series of miscommunications and being herself with this overwhelming confidence.

Then, she lost it. I won’t give away the ending, but Amy Schumer plays the same character the whole time. No body prosthetics. No weird shots of what she actually sees in the mirror. All you see is a woman suddenly gain all the confidence in the world and then suddenly lose it again. It goes along with the communication skills I was talking about in my last post. I want to gain more confidence in who I am. Perhaps it’s all smoke screens about why it’s not there to begin with and I just need to step out behind them, but I’m going to seek to find a way to do that. In the meantime, I’m working on letting the past be the past and letting the future be the future.

What do you need to let go of today to make space for the present and the future?

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