Anger and Growth?

Anger


I hesitate to write this because it’s so raw for me right now. I just got through with therapy and tapped into an emotion I’ve been feeling more and more: anger. For those of you who haven’t been to years of therapy like I have, anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that it’s an emotion that only happens when a deeper emotion triggers it. I’ve been feeling anger more and more at injustice.

I won’t go into details about my therapy session, but there’s the phrase “anger turned inward is depression.” For so long I’ve been in depression that to feel anger is so new, so empowering, so scary! Anger was always used as a weapon against me, usually violently, but I’ve also seen it used with passion in speeches to speak truth when others were too scared to speak the truth. I’m used to depression. Now, I’m finding my voice. I’m finding my passion again.

I have no idea what social work and injustice has to do with minimalism and organization. I know that emotionally and mentally and physically I have been working on clearing out space in my life for something new. I don’t know what that something new is, but apparently it needs plenty of space! No, it’s not something new. It’s something that’s been there the whole time but has been shrouded by all the troubles of life: my passions and personality. Me. I am coming into myself. It’s a slow process, and I am failing along the way, but I am learning what it is to be me. I’ve seen just how much how people I knew have changed and grown over the years. It’s my turn to grow.

How are you going to grow this year?

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